Benefits with the Military

I've been doing some research about the military and the benefits that they get. I have friends that are joining and I've been thinking about the Air Force quite a bit lately so I figured I'd look into it a little more. The thing about the military, or in suck case Air Force so to speak. People are known to join for the uniform, schooling, and/or to serve our (so to speak) beloved free country. In my case and a few others its to learn about different cultures and travail. Maybe come out of my shell a little, become more independent and rely on myself a little more. But if I were to want my girlfriend and/or wife (whichever at the time) she wouldn't be able to get any of the military spouse benefits because I am a girl and so is she. If you are gay or lesbian you can't have your partner travail with you to where you are stationed unless they get a job of there own and live pretty much on there own. Oh and get this if I were to die while on leave the military would not pay for my spouse to come to my funeral, but they would pay for like my parents, sister, brother, and such but they will not pay for my partner of that which I married. I love that they got rid of the "don't ask don't tell" policy, but really people couldn't they have done a little more for us? I mean really think about it there are guys and galls out there that have to wait like six months just to see there partner because they can't afford to come with them and probably don't want to learn the language of where their loved one is stationed. Even at that they wouldn't be able to see them often because unless you are a certain rank you can't live off base unless your married to the opposite sex. In my eyes that's ridiculous. It's unfair to those troupes out there that do everything they can to keep everyone in the country safe. But do you see the country doing anything for them? Think about that for a second and tell me how you feel.

Adoption Rights

I was sitting at home with my girlfriend and we started talking about kids. I know we both want kids. Me more so then her but you know, that's just how it is. I'm actually why she wants kids. She really didn't want them before she met me. But anyway as I was saying, we started talking about how it's nearly impossible for a Gay/Lesbian couple to adopt in the states, more so Utah where we live. The country should not have the right to take any of our adoption rights away from any of us. Think about how it for a minute your raised by two loving women or men and out of no where one of them gets sick some how and ends up dying, and it just so happens that the one that died was your birth parent. Your other parent will most likely not going to legally be able to take you in. You'll probably end up with someone related to your birth parent. I also think that couples that can't have children would save lots of children in foster homes or orphanages from becoming delinquitnts and trouble. It would Also give the state more money. Okay and yes people may think that having gay parents inforces them to be gay but really it doesn't. If your chiled is going to be gay then they are going to be gay. People like me that are proud and don't care what others say that show everyone just make it easier for those that are scared to come out to actually come out and be themselves. It also doesn't help that churches, stores, and fast food places across the states are donating money to groups that are againced gay rights. It's not as bad as everyone makes it seem. Don't let people tell you, you are wrong for raising children.

Understanding the world unknown

            Its not just understanding how we live but what its like to live with out knowing or even knowing. Its like we are not here but really we are. People either pretend not to see us and others see us and get disgusted. No matter how people look at us we still have to stick together and not change who we are just because the churches are telling everyone that being Gay is a sin and the devils work. I mean look at divorce. Isn't the bible totally against it. Well there you have it. Divorce it there why isn't Gay rights. We live in a world that everyone doesn't know about and look at how we live. Its almost like we live in hiding because everyone is afraid, afraid of becoming someone everyone looks down upon. Everyone needs to come out and fight, fight for not only whats right but what they believe in as a person. Don't let some "homophobic" person change you. everyone should be able to be who they want and be with who they want. 

            Its scary to be Gay, Lesbian, or even Bi. We get shit from everyone, even others that are but haven't come out yet. There are those that are OMG hes totally Gay (Flairs) or there are those that go out with someone so they don't look Gay (Coverup). Either way you will eventually come out, but you need to know that you will be okay in life don't be afraid to show your true inner colors. You may be surprised at what could happen bad or good (hoping for good) :) haha. The world is scary no matter what so we just have to take the chance of being who we are no matter who knows and cares because the people that know and don't care keep close and the people that know and care don't let them get to you just tell them whatever and make them disappear out of you life, you don't need them.  

            Meeting people like you or that would be good to you if you told them is very hard. I suggest you tell everyone right as soon as you meet them. It makes it a lot less awkward in the long run, and if they aren't okay with it then there you have it you don't need them in your life. Stick to going to places that you know have a good environment for you to go. Hang out with good people do good things. Don't be scared to ask questions to see if people would be okay with it. Talk about celebs you know are Gay and if they get into a "good" convo about it then you know your good to tell them. Talk to everyone about it if you've known them a long while and tell them how you feel. Don't go in my direction and not talk about it at all, because it never gave me justice and still isn't. Talking actually tells them you are serious about it and your not changing your mind. See i need to take my own advice. Ill tell you if I ever do. :) ha.